I have no tips or tricks to share today with our wonderful group, but I do have a confession,
I never wanted to be a Stay at Home Mom.
I have nothing against them, in fact, some of my favorite friends are SAHM and damn if that isn’t the toughest effing job out there.
When I had my kids I was working as an Academic Director at a K-12 charter school with a very flexible work schedule, I worked part-time and my actual "work" wasn't much of a challenge, but I got to massage that teaching muscle and still make it in time to a Mommy & Me class with Synthia Praglin and later Siggie Cohen. For awhile, it felt really, really great. However, I was getting progressively more and more bored with work. Not because I missed being at home with my kids, LOL I said this was a confession!! It was because the actual work wasn’t challenging at all, some days I totally phoned it in and everyone kept telling me how fabulous I was and I was thinking, “Dude, I could do SO much more, but ok!”
So what does my Executive Director do when I tell her I’m not really being challenged enough???
Why, she promotes me of course! AND gives me a raise! I was like, “HUH??”
They promoted me to Interim - Principal (the current was on bed rest) with the goal being I would the Asst. Principal when she returned in February. Well this was now even further away from me being a SAHM, so I thought, why not!?! At the same time, Caitlyn is starting Kinder and a River is in preschool and I'm supervising 300 kids, their families and 30 teachers and staff, including Melissa Gallegos! Be careful what you wish because I was now VERY challenged. (Side note this promotion led to me meeting, Jennifer 'Ross' Sellz. So yes, every cloud has a silver lining.)
By the time I was half way through from my second year, I had enough. Being on the administrative side of public school education is not star stickers and crazy hair day. It is UGLY. I was finding myself saying and doing things that actually WERE NOT in the best interest of the students but of the budget and I couldn’t take it. I missed family, my friends, yoga and sleep. Also, I was feeling that boredom sneaking in again…
"Complacent Carrie, is not a good Carrie to be.” - Thomas Jefferson
If I kept my mouth shut, I would have had a very successful career as a principal.
I now ENIVED all those SAHM so much!!!!!
So what did I decide to do???
I KNOW!!!! I'll open my own school, with my own teachers, my own mission, and use my own philosophy on education. I'll FINALLY get to be apart of the solution in education not perpetuating the same bureaucratic BS like making 6 year olds sit all day, tell their parents they have ADD and they need medication. Nope, at my school they will have plenty of playtime, lots of hands-on learning and tons technology!
I’M GOING TO BE AN ENTREPRENEUR!
So with the support of my friends and family; Kathy Scolieri-Schuh built bookcases, Christine Bieselin Clark painted cabinets, Jennifer Garrett Currier planted a garden and Lori Bell Medlin posed as a perspective parent at an Open House to ask all the “right questions” to make me look good.
I built my school and it was exciting, invigorating and something I was really good at, the parents of my students were all so appreciative of my little school, they saw so much growth in their kids, and we were a happy little group.
Just me, my teacher, one small class and my business partner. I did everything from the ground up, I wasn’t only the principal, I was also the bookkeeper, janitor, administrative assistant, advertising manager and so much more. I put EVERY ounce of my soul into this venture, I sacrificed even more time with my family, friends and fuck it, who has time for yoga any way.
BUT...after 2 years.... I found myself bored again and 20 pounds heavier. Side note, those pounds are the reason I meet Stacey Beaman. Silver lining, again. Also, who did I see at the workout classes with me?? Synthia came back into my life, 4 years later.
So about my school….. I guess I always knew I COULD build a school, but I never asked myself if I SHOULD.
It was also around this time I realized I was surrounded by other women who were entrepreneurs, I’m not kidding like NINE of you I was talking with regularly and you were all entrepreneurs.
Some of us would get together fairly regularly and the talk about kids, marriage and sales at Trader Joes were now becoming a smaller part of our conversations, it was transitioning into talks about the best Instagram posts, creating marketing campaigns and how to grow our businesses to a higher level of success.. Those are some of my favorite times, I found myself SO looking forward to those meetings with you ladies after my school day. It got to a point where the servers at the restaurants we'd frequent knew what we were drinking and eating as soon as we stepped in the door. They were essentially, on the payroll.
I felt charged and was so eager to learn more about what you all were doing and how I could help.
It was then I realized, what if I got ALL of these ladies in the same room at the same time, we could ALL really benefit from knowing and networking with each other.
So as luck would have it, in late 2015, I passed ownership of my school over to a very eager teacher and I started
BRA- Business Relationship Alliance.
I don’t have an office space anymore, so I guess that makes me officially a Stay at Home Mom now. Who Knew???
BRA LADIES, I love bringing people together, so my business is to get YOU more business.